Within any relationship, be it with a loved one, family member or friend, behaviours are learned and exchanged. Sometimes it is healthy and nurturing relationships where we feed off each other and help bring support, happiness and/or growth to each others lives. However, other times this is not the case and a whole heap of negative behaviour becomes the norm. It is tolerated by and from each other and leads to toxicity, hurt and abuse.
Examples include but are not limited to:
– The cycle that allows people to be close enough to hurt you, yet somehow not close enough to acknowledge the hurt they cause. 😢🧐
– The cycle that may have taught you to forgive but also to believe unnecessary pain is inevitable. ‘Love hurts’ 😢💔
– The environment that says to you that ‘we love your voice’ but not when it is in criticism of them.🗣👀
– The environment that vigorously celebrates your strength on a good day, but attacks you when that strength emboldens you to not stand for what you feel is wrong. 💪👏😒
– The environment where people you care about can become angry and aggressive towards you for you highlighting how they have caused you pain.😡🤕
– The cycle that continuously encourages you to empathise with everyone else but yourself.🤗-😑😢
It is HARD to break cycles. It tremendously difficult to walk away from the idea of comfort, the idea of security. However, it is a must if you want to save your life. It is a must if you want live your truth, whatever that means for you. If you need to, you can start again. You know your heart, you know who you are. The universe will align with the true friendships love and relationships you deserve. ~ 🌞⭐✨🌹
J writes 